tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15350975.post4060137636850076540..comments2024-03-27T09:08:50.883-07:00Comments on Bad Mom, Good Mom: The root cause of the gender learning gapbadmomgoodmomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11569728075698885020noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15350975.post-2395426320799403302010-01-15T10:33:21.967-08:002010-01-15T10:33:21.967-08:00The part that rankles me is equating social contro...The part that rankles me is equating social control with education.<br /><br />That's a scary kind of education and has no place in a democracy.<br /><br />Though there are some plausible arguments why Texas is not a democracy, but an oligarchy posing as a theocracy...badmomgoodmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11569728075698885020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15350975.post-71782764690512309882010-01-15T09:18:51.118-08:002010-01-15T09:18:51.118-08:00Well, that's sort of my point -- even though I...Well, that's sort of my point -- even though I don't agree with the school board, on the global scale of social injustice, a four year old's haircut registers pretty low.beam aims northhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09640660445798329531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15350975.post-9630779675773493272010-01-14T21:45:22.978-08:002010-01-14T21:45:22.978-08:00At 4, I was in Kindergarten in a country governed ...At 4, I was in Kindergarten in a country governed by a military dictatorship under marshal law.<br /><br />They used corporal punishment against left handers to teach them the proper way to conform. I am right handed now. But a boy who had more difficulty changing than I had was taken out to the school yard to be whipped with a belt in front of the entire school.<br /><br />At 5, our textbooks gave a version of "history" that was total fiction. People who spoke out against it were jailed and/or killed.<br /><br />I have a different relationship to bullshit than you do.badmomgoodmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11569728075698885020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15350975.post-4440739820725193352010-01-14T21:40:19.326-08:002010-01-14T21:40:19.326-08:00So, at what age does a child learn that sometimes ...So, at what age does a child learn that sometimes we just suck it up and follow the rules?<br /><br />I would be happy to indulge a kid's preferences if it doesn't cause any problems. But I sure as hell would fight a four year old before I would fight a school board and get the media involved.beam aims northhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09640660445798329531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15350975.post-42405594208878275272010-01-14T21:17:01.688-08:002010-01-14T21:17:01.688-08:00Wow. I'm glad I don't live there.
Not tha...Wow. I'm glad I don't live there.<br /><br />Not that it would matter, since I have two girls, and girls are "allowed" to have long hair.<br /><br />the Smart Bohemian- I have to say, this would probably not be a battle I'd choose to fight with my oldest child unless absolutely necessary. She is extremely stubborn. I need to save my energy for the battles that matter.<br /><br />Now, someone should remember that and quote it back to me when I'm worried about her dying her hair pink at some future date.Cloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15350975.post-27137018862991998472010-01-14T14:45:46.417-08:002010-01-14T14:45:46.417-08:00The Beatles? Led Zeppelin? I had to check the ar...The Beatles? Led Zeppelin? I had to check the article to see it when in the last 40 years it was written. <br /><br />Love your commentary though. (And love the quilt above too.)Meta Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06818110044361456974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15350975.post-76347623258497535992010-01-14T10:18:27.144-08:002010-01-14T10:18:27.144-08:00Wait till little Phoebe is four. ;-)
They've...Wait till little Phoebe is four. ;-)<br /><br />They've pretty much developed their own personalities and bullshit detectors by four.badmomgoodmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11569728075698885020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15350975.post-31939417658639725852010-01-14T10:12:53.829-08:002010-01-14T10:12:53.829-08:00I think both sides are a little nuts! I don't...I think both sides are a little nuts! I don't understand why the school board cares so much about his hair. But it bugs me that the parents seem to be putting the blame on the child, because "he doesn't WANT to have his hair cut!"<br /><br />Um, he's FOUR. They are the parents, and they are in charge of making decisions for a FOUR YEAR OLD. When their "pint-size rebel" decides he wants to go to school wearing nothing but a tiara and Underoos, are they going to have another meeting with the school board about it?beam aims northhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09640660445798329531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15350975.post-82635610873798198982010-01-14T08:45:37.073-08:002010-01-14T08:45:37.073-08:00Long ago I stopped saying, "Are they NUTS?!&q...Long ago I stopped saying, "Are they NUTS?!" Because it turned out, they were. It's just social control, pure and simple and has nothing to do with learning. My son experienced this first hand when he cut his hair. He said teachers treated him differently when he had long hair(beautiful and wavy - he looked like John the Baptist) vs. short John Roberts hair. His grades went up. Same kid, same work, different hair. Coincidence?Little Hunting Creekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15581836733935812927noreply@blogger.com