tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15350975.post6455670443116785850..comments2024-03-27T09:08:50.883-07:00Comments on Bad Mom, Good Mom: More depressing newsbadmomgoodmomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11569728075698885020noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15350975.post-14153118378692136562009-02-11T20:05:00.000-08:002009-02-11T20:05:00.000-08:00"It goes beyond public and community influence to ..."It goes beyond public and community influence to parental influence."<BR/><BR/>Parental influence doesn't happen in a vacuum. It's part of community/public.<BR/><BR/>And women are not "more culpable" than the men in perpetuating gender roles. There's this little thing called "the patriarchy", in which we're all complicit to some extent. It's a hell of a lot more complicated than just silly women not teaching their sons right.From the lion's mouthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08269847882599124126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15350975.post-29493671595805733202009-02-11T12:28:00.000-08:002009-02-11T12:28:00.000-08:00I don't find that surprising based solely on the s...I don't find that surprising based solely on the small sample of local friends and colleagues and the way they have raised their sons and daughters. Most of the women bemoan the fact that their husbands do little, bring their daughters up to expect more (not like daddy) and rear their boys to be exactly like their fathers (or worse). <BR/><BR/>It goes beyond public and community influence to parental influence. I have had a lot of heated discussions about this, and I do have friends who fit and support plans A, and C, but they almost all friends I went to college with. Outside this circle most people I know train their sons to expect A, and the women are just as culpable as the men, often more so, as they intentionally excuse their sons from expectations that they deem to be "women's work", somehow blind to the idea that they are perpetuating the very behavior they rail against..Mardelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04850551308931710502noreply@blogger.com