Saturday, April 13, 2013

First, do no harm

I am NOT sick, but I wish this article was available, years ago, when I was seriously sick.
For a Sick Friend: First, Do No Harm: Conversing with the ill can be awkward, but keeping a few simple commandments makes a huge difference
It's a short article with 10 simple rules.  I've heard all the don'ts mentioned in the article and can affirm that they all make the sick person feel even worse.

6 comments:

  1. That is an *excellent* list.

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  2. Carolyn Hax, the kindest advice columnist I've ever read, led me to another article today on the same general topic. Symbiosis. http://www.latimes.com/news/opinion/commentary/la-oe-0407-silk-ring-theory-20130407,0,2074046.story

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  3. Excellent list. I've heard them all as well. I especially enjoy the medical advice.

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  4. Very, very good list!
    Interesting synchrony, here's something related: http://www.latimes.com/news/opinion/commentary/la-oe-0407-silk-ring-theory-20130407,0,2074046.story
    And some interesting comments about it http://captainawkward.com/2013/04/08/la-times-how-not-to-say-the-wrong-thing/

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  5. Thanks for passing on the silk ring theory link. I will definitely use the ring of kvetching test in the future.

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  6. It's good as a basic guide for folks who really always find themselves stumbling in such situations. On the other hand, there's no simple better-worse in a lot of interactions. It gets old when everyone treats you like you're in the center circle, when you're not actually feeling like that reflects your reality.

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